With the best of intentions, we want to motivate our kids to be more competitive—but watch out—it might backfire. When we compare our kids, we may cause more harm than good.
There’s a monster on the pool deck—the “Green-Eyed Monster” of jealousy—most often seen between parents.
What could possibly go wrong? Well, just about anything and everything. Here’s a partial list of things that did go wrong during my years as a swim mom…
What if a child and parent have completely different expectations? It’s guaranteed to be a sprint to disappointments and misunderstandings. Here are questions swim parents can ask themselves about goals for their swimmers…
10 things I notice while swimming masters rather than cheering from the sidelines.
The ability to work hard carries over to other aspects in our lives. We might not reach our goals through hard work, but without it, we will fail.
After talking with parents of Olympians, I discovered they don’t push their kids. Instead, they put zero limitations on their kids’ dreams. They are encouraging, hopeful and never say it’s impossible.
If we value loyalty, we will want our kids to be loyal, too. We want them to succeed, but also to be part of a bigger picture—adding to our community, not taking from it.
“Welcome to the funeral of my swimming identity,” a senior said at the team’s banquet following the Pac-12 championships. It was a humorous, but very truthful statement from a young woman who swam in her last meet.
This week, our daughter competes in her second conference meet. My role has changed from my days at age group championship meets…
The sad truth is when your child is nine years old, it may feel like your days as a swim parent are endless. Before you know it, your child will begin the college recruiting process.
Why do we get so emotionally involved in how fast our children swim across the pool? Have you ever stopped to watch parents faces at meets? You’ll see extreme pain, elation, frustration and everything in between.
Many parents complain or worry when their kids aren’t dropping time. I’ve explained to my fellow swim parents that if our kids dropped time, every single time they swam, they’d be in the Olympics already.
We’re coming up on a new swim season. Our kids have had a couple weeks off and we’ve enjoyed a short summer vacation. School is starting up and it’s time for our kids to jump back into the pool.
If your children take responsibility and ownership, then they most likely have intrinsic motivation and love swimming.