Dear Coach….A Recruiting Breakup Letter

  7 SwimSwam | August 20th, 2014 | Lifestyle, Opinion, SEC

The most uncomfortable part of the college recruiting process is the “decline to sign”. For the swimmer, you have to try and let a coach down gently after he or she has spent a lot of their time and resources trying to woo you. You have to let that coach know that they weren’t good enough. For a coach, you have to accept the news with grace, and yet somehow bring closure.

Below, the head coach of one SEC team sent us a fictional letter that muses about this breakup process. He just keeps telling himself that there are plenty of fish in the sea. Or swimmers in the pool, same difference.

Dear Coach,

Sorry I haven’t been in communication much.  After my season ending meet I took a little break from swimming and started to really think about my future and where you may lie in it.  I’m writing to let you know that I think it’s best if we saw other people.  Our relationship over the past 7 weeks has been outstanding.  I mean even my parents liked you.   I still can’t believe that Pounces my cat actually sat on your lap when you came over for dinner.   She hates human interaction.

I appreciate everything you’ve done for me.  The handwritten notes sent to my home.   The morning phone calls to see how practice went.  The evening phone calls to see how my day was.  Even the phone calls on Monday to see how my swim meet went.  I can tell that you really did care for me.    That being said, I think is best that we move on.  This wasn’t an easy decision for me and I hate to be so cliché but it’s not you, it’s me.    I just don’t know if what you have to offer for me as a prospective student athlete matches what I am looking for in my four years in college.  I wish nothing but the best and I hope we can still be friends.

Swimmer X

PS: you can keep the mix tape of my swims

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I for one think that it’s a bit creepy satirizing the recruiting process as dating (even with the many parallels) considering all of the scandals that the swimmer-coach relationship has been mired with recently…

It kind of tickles me when I read that a recruit has chosen a school because “the coaches were nice, and the team seemed like a family.” What are the coaches going to show you: a bad day at practice and the actual day-to-day interaction of the team?
I really think it’s imporrtant to spend part of the campus visit with a non-athlete, so you can see if the school really stands up to what the coach and brochures are telling you. If not, it’s like buying a shiny car without taking a test drive.

I have had 3 of my kids swim in college and telling a coach “no” was the hardest part of recruiting for all of them. If you are up front and polite with coaches, they will be the same with you in a large part, in fact my kids have run into these same coaches at meets and they were all very polite and asked how things were going. There was one coach however who told my youngest, that he did not except her “No” and said that he was going to give her more time to think about it, that still floors me to this day. I truly hope that he is the only that does this.